* warning! dramatic post ahead....
A romantic dance
A dinner with good wine and a bottle of whisky
Conversations
One night of passionate love making
Some love lasts forever even the other person has long been gone...
Nights in Rodanthe is a novel from the same author who gave us The Notebook, A Walk to Remember and Message in a Bottle, Nicholas Spark. The book was adapted into film in 2008 starring Richard Gere (my favorite actor since Pretty Woman) and Diane Lane.
The plot is simple, cliche'. A man devastated by a failure in his career and his fatherhood, a woman from a broken marriage, a house by the beach and a lot of hang ups kept inside their hearts. In four days they became each other's guiding light then separated to mend what was broken in their lives. During that journey, there were promises of love, of being together again and start a life together, there were plans for the future, there were so much hope...
And then Paul (Richard Gere) died and she has to move on...
Tonight, I watched this movie. With all its simplicity, it was a very lovely film. I didn't cry but while writing this, I am on the verge of tears. Nicholas Sparks knows how to pull the strings in my heart and turn me into a drama queen.
But if I hadn't been that in love, that hopeful and that devastated because of a broken heart, I don't think it will ever had an effect on me.
"Once in my life, I've let go of a man. He meant the world to me. I told him my passions and my dreams (which are the most important things in my life). Those were the period when I was very young, fresh out of college, trying hard to be someone. While I was telling him those things, he was just looking at me, straight to my eyes while running his hands through my (used to be) long curly hair. It was those days that I still don't need alcohol to speak my mind out.
He let me finished and after I said, "that's it, that's what I want to become. Right now, I don't know how, but I will be there", he said, "You deserve nothing but the best, my dear".
We couldn't be together but I hoped against hope, that maybe when things are settled, there might be a chance. But one day, on the day of my 22nd birthday, when he granted me one last time to see him over coffee, he told me that he is leaving. I did not cry until he was gone. But when his cellphone finally went out of coverage, my whole world crumbled down. Like Adrian (Diane Lane), my entire life shut down. I didn't want to go out of the house, I didn't want to eat, and I felt like a living dead.
But one day, I picked the broken pieces and decided to let go. I started my life over again and in a few years, I was able to achieve all the things that I told him I will be. I became a published writer, I worked in the biggest stations, I've held positions that during that time, I wouldn't know how to handle. I was realizing my dreams and my passions while he was gone.
There was only one thing left, that promised that I will live in Paris. One year ago, one day after my marriage, we saw each other again. He met MK, and I told him I am leaving the country as well. Im gonna be living in Europe, not exactly Paris but close to it. He said he is happy for me.
I am glad I didn't forget him.'
We all have an experience like this, letting go of a loved one, sometimes to the inevitable (like in this movie where his life was claimed by nature) but in most cases, in situations that we didn't really like to let the other person go.
Try to remember the love, the pain and then the denial. In most times, we stopped at the denial and there we start forgetting, to escape the pain.
I had this conversation some time ago where somebody asked me if there's really a need for forgetting that one person we thought we loved so much just because there was one point that everything went sour. I didn't know what to say because there had been many times that I just chose to forget. The pain is just too strong that from that, I couldn't do anything anymore but try to hide it in the deepest recesses of my heart. It becomes a habit and then one day, you'll feel yourself numb from it.
But one day, it will come back. So what was the point of trying to forget?
I actually answered after thinking for a while, that whatever I throw away, I never picked up again. But it is not entirely true. I guess, I've kept everything inside me, the pain but most especially, the love...
For all the times that we loved, starting from a teenage romances, to our forbidden trysts, to our failed relationships, to our broken marriages till the death of our loved ones, do we really need to forget those moments that we were sure that the feelings will last forever even if one day we discovered that it doesnt?
This movie reminded me that we should not. Love, no matter how short or long it had been felt, should always be treasured...
A romantic dance
A dinner with good wine and a bottle of whisky
Conversations
One night of passionate love making
Some love lasts forever even the other person has long been gone...
Nights in Rodanthe is a novel from the same author who gave us The Notebook, A Walk to Remember and Message in a Bottle, Nicholas Spark. The book was adapted into film in 2008 starring Richard Gere (my favorite actor since Pretty Woman) and Diane Lane.
The plot is simple, cliche'. A man devastated by a failure in his career and his fatherhood, a woman from a broken marriage, a house by the beach and a lot of hang ups kept inside their hearts. In four days they became each other's guiding light then separated to mend what was broken in their lives. During that journey, there were promises of love, of being together again and start a life together, there were plans for the future, there were so much hope...
And then Paul (Richard Gere) died and she has to move on...
Tonight, I watched this movie. With all its simplicity, it was a very lovely film. I didn't cry but while writing this, I am on the verge of tears. Nicholas Sparks knows how to pull the strings in my heart and turn me into a drama queen.
But if I hadn't been that in love, that hopeful and that devastated because of a broken heart, I don't think it will ever had an effect on me.
"Once in my life, I've let go of a man. He meant the world to me. I told him my passions and my dreams (which are the most important things in my life). Those were the period when I was very young, fresh out of college, trying hard to be someone. While I was telling him those things, he was just looking at me, straight to my eyes while running his hands through my (used to be) long curly hair. It was those days that I still don't need alcohol to speak my mind out.
He let me finished and after I said, "that's it, that's what I want to become. Right now, I don't know how, but I will be there", he said, "You deserve nothing but the best, my dear".
We couldn't be together but I hoped against hope, that maybe when things are settled, there might be a chance. But one day, on the day of my 22nd birthday, when he granted me one last time to see him over coffee, he told me that he is leaving. I did not cry until he was gone. But when his cellphone finally went out of coverage, my whole world crumbled down. Like Adrian (Diane Lane), my entire life shut down. I didn't want to go out of the house, I didn't want to eat, and I felt like a living dead.
But one day, I picked the broken pieces and decided to let go. I started my life over again and in a few years, I was able to achieve all the things that I told him I will be. I became a published writer, I worked in the biggest stations, I've held positions that during that time, I wouldn't know how to handle. I was realizing my dreams and my passions while he was gone.
There was only one thing left, that promised that I will live in Paris. One year ago, one day after my marriage, we saw each other again. He met MK, and I told him I am leaving the country as well. Im gonna be living in Europe, not exactly Paris but close to it. He said he is happy for me.
I am glad I didn't forget him.'
We all have an experience like this, letting go of a loved one, sometimes to the inevitable (like in this movie where his life was claimed by nature) but in most cases, in situations that we didn't really like to let the other person go.
Try to remember the love, the pain and then the denial. In most times, we stopped at the denial and there we start forgetting, to escape the pain.
I had this conversation some time ago where somebody asked me if there's really a need for forgetting that one person we thought we loved so much just because there was one point that everything went sour. I didn't know what to say because there had been many times that I just chose to forget. The pain is just too strong that from that, I couldn't do anything anymore but try to hide it in the deepest recesses of my heart. It becomes a habit and then one day, you'll feel yourself numb from it.
But one day, it will come back. So what was the point of trying to forget?
I actually answered after thinking for a while, that whatever I throw away, I never picked up again. But it is not entirely true. I guess, I've kept everything inside me, the pain but most especially, the love...
For all the times that we loved, starting from a teenage romances, to our forbidden trysts, to our failed relationships, to our broken marriages till the death of our loved ones, do we really need to forget those moments that we were sure that the feelings will last forever even if one day we discovered that it doesnt?
This movie reminded me that we should not. Love, no matter how short or long it had been felt, should always be treasured...
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